What Influences Me Versus What I Influence
I’m referring to more about what’s been happening to me internally over the last two years as I try to find the proper balance between what influences me and what I influence.
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I’m referring to more about what’s been happening to me internally over the last two years as I try to find the proper balance between what influences me and what I influence.
Having a host of commitments always reminds me of these wise words, “If you don’t control your calendar, your calendar will control you.” What gets scheduled gets done, and what doesn’t get scheduled gets left behind.
For me, it means making sure that I’m equipping individuals and churches to join God in His work. It means that I’m charged with encouraging those around me to participate in God’s mission of sharing about Jesus.
Whether we like it or not, though, church has changed. The message is the same, but there’s no doubt church looks different. With or without our approval.
As a volunteer, it’s often easy to fall into a rut with your serving routine. You walk in, find your badge, stand where you’re supposed to stand or go where you’re supposed to go, and put your time in while trying to look relatively pleasant.
Far too many churches spend the majority of their weekly focus on what happens in the “main service” without giving any serious thought to everything else that optimizes the ministry as a whole.
I would’ve been asking how I could use this time to move closer to God’s ring of honor. The more I reflect on these thought patterns, the more I see how much I need to confess!
People are ready to hear the Good News! They’re just as lost, lonely, and looking for answers as they ever were (maybe even more). And thanks to the communication shift that’s happened, it’s easier than ever to reach them—if you have a plan. It just requires a bit of a shift in thinking and a willingness to try something new.
It was easier not to rock the boat even if we knew the path we were on wasn’t leading anywhere.
No one will see the unrealistic expectations placed on us until we get honest about the unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves.
Many times, we know we’ve heard clearly from the Lord of His plan for the church we are leading. Then, out of nowhere, He shuts the door.
It can be so reassuring when facing a fork in the road to have someone guide you through the unknown who knows the way forward.

Discouraged. It’s how every leader has felt at one point or another when we want to be somewhere we’re not. Dale navigated his own experiences of disappointment in himself and uncovered key truths about leadership in ministry that can anchor and guide us today.
Dale Sellers of 95Network believes this trend is largely due to discouragement among our pastors. Many church leaders begin ministry with dreams of making an eternal impact. But years of striving, stress, and strain have left them feeling defeated, disillusioned, and stalled.
Thankfully, there is hope that ministry can turn around for the discouraged pastor. As a former minister who’s been in the trenches, Dale Sellers reveals that:
In STALLED, you will discover your sweet spot and realize you are closer to being “there” than you know.
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